Control and growth are the dilemma that family business confronted during the process of growth. Using three - dimensional model, the paper analyses the relation between control rights transfer and Chinese family business growth from three aspects, such as capital scale, profit earn capacity and organization structure. And find there is a positive correlation between them. The Chinese family business should transfer part of control rights to outside, so as to absorb continually and integrate resources effectively, break the bottle neck of capital and administration that restrict the development of family business, and promote the growth of Chinese family business.